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Weddings

Congratulations on your engagement!
I’m delighted to share a bit about my journey and passion for creating unforgettable, personalized wedding ceremonies. My name is Lisa and I have dedicated my life to celebrating love in all its beautiful forms.

Every couple has a unique story, and my goal is to weave your love, values, and vision into a ceremony that reflects who you truly are. Whether you envision a traditional service, a contemporary celebration, or an intimate gathering, I am committed to crafting a memorable experience that will resonate with you and your loved ones for years to come.

Beyond weddings, I offer a range of services to support you through life's journey—including vow renewals, commitment ceremonies, and other sacred milestones. With an in-depth ministerial program and 20 years of experience, I bring a depth of understanding and a touch of creativity to each event.

Let's connect and explore how we can bring your dream ceremony to life. It would be an honor to be a part of your special day!




What You Need to Know 

Getting Married in New York State

Where do you get a marriage license?

A couple who intends to be married in New York State must apply in person for a marriage license to any town or city clerk in the state. The application for a license must be signed by both applicants in the presence of the town or city clerk. 

Is there a waiting period?

Yes. the marriage ceremony may not take place within 24 hours from the exact time that the license was issued.
The 24-hour waiting period may be waived by a judge or justice of the Supreme Court of New York State or the county judge.

How long is the license valid?

A marriage license is valid for 60 calendar days, beginning the day after it is issued. If active U.S. military, the solemnization period may be extended to 180 calendar days. The applicant must provide proof to the issuing clerk at the time of application.

How much does the license cost?

If the marriage license is issued by a town or city clerk in New York State outside of New York City, it costs $40. This fee includes the issuance of a Certificate of Marriage Registration. This certificate is automatically sent by the issuing clerk to the applicants within 15 calendar days after the completed license is returned by the officiant (person who performs the marriage ceremony). It serves as notice that a record of the marriage is on file. Couples who do not receive a Certificate of Marriage Registration within four weeks of the wedding should contact the town or city clerk who issued the license.
If the license is to be issued by the City Clerk of the City of New York, please contact the New York City Clerk's Office for current fees and requirements. The City Clerk's Office can be reached at (212) NEW-YORK or via its website at New York City Marriage Bureau.

Is a premarital physical exam required?

No

Who can get married?

Age Requirements

Marriages of minors under eighteen years of age is prohibited. 

Proof of Age and Identity

Both parties are required to present to the clerk documentary proof of age. Possible documents include those listed below. Contact the clerk's office where you plan to purchase your license to find out what they require.
      1. A certified copy of a birth record,
      2. a certification of birth issued by the state department of health, a local registrar of vital statistics or other public officer charged with similar duties by the laws of any other state, territory or country,
      3. a baptismal record,
      4. a passport,
      5. an automobile driver's license,
      6. any government or school issued identification card that contains a photograph of the applicant,
      7. a life insurance policy,
      8. an employment certificate,
      9. a school record,
      10. an immigration record,
      11. a naturalization record,
      12. a court record or any other document or record issued by a governmental entity, showing the date of birth.

Familial Restrictions

A marriage may not take place in New York State between an ancestor and descendant, siblings (full or half blood), an uncle and niece or nephew or an aunt and niece or nephew, regardless of whether or not these persons are legitimate or illegitimate offspring.

Previous Marriages

Information regarding previous marriages must be furnished in the application for a marriage license. This includes whether the former spouse or spouses are living, and whether the applicants are divorced and, if so, when, where and against whom the divorce or divorces were granted. A certified copy of the Decree of Divorce or a Certificate of Dissolution of Marriage may be required by the clerk issuing the marriage license.

Name Change Options

Every person has the right to adopt any name by which he or she wishes to be known simply by using that name consistently and without intent to defraud. A person's last name (surname) does not automatically change upon marriage, and neither party to the marriage is required to change his or her last name. Parties to a marriage need not take the same last name.



One or both parties to a marriage may elect to change the surname by which he or she wishes to be known after the marriage by entering the new name in the appropriate space provided on the marriage license. The new name must consist of one of the following options:
  • the surname of the other spouse;
  • any former surname of either spouse;
  • a name combining into a single surname all or a segment of the premarriage surname or any former surname of each spouse;
  • a combination name separated by a hyphen or a space, provided that each part of such combination surname is the premarriage surname, or any former surname, of each of the spouses.
One or both parties to a marriage may elect to change the middle name by which he or she wishes to be known after the marriage by entering the new name in the appropriate space provided on the marriage license. The new middle name must consist of one of the following options: 
  • the current surname of the spouse electing to change his or her name;
  • any former surname of the spouse electing to change his or her name;
  • the surname of the other spouse.
The use of this option will provide a record of your change of name. The marriage certificate, containing the new name, if any, is proof that the use of the new name, or the retention of the former name, is lawful. The local Social Security Administration office should be contacted so that its records and your social security identification card reflect the name change. There is no charge for this service.
To change the name on your NYS driver license or non-driver identification, contact the Department of Motor Vehicles for information.
Whether you decide to use or not use this option at the time of your marriage license application, you still have the right to adopt a different name through usage at some future date. However, your marriage license cannot be changed to record a surname you decide to use after your marriage.
If you plan to use your married name at work, be sure to have your name changed in Social Security records. This way, you will get credit for all your earnings. It's easy and it's absolutely free. Contact any Social Security office. You can find the address and phone number of your local Social Security Office at http://www.ssa.gov. You will need documentary evidence showing both your old name and your new name.

Where can a marriage take place? 

A New York State marriage license may be used within New York State only. Please note that if you go out of New York State to be married, your New York State marriage license will not be filed in New York State.

What about the ceremony?

There is no particular form or ceremony required except that the parties must state in the presence of an authorized public official or authorized member of the clergy and at least one other witness that each takes the other as his or her spouse.
There is no minimum age for a witness. However, in selecting a witness, choose at least one person who you feel would be competent to testify in a court proceeding as to what he or she witnessed.

Who can perform a marriage ceremony?

To be valid, a marriage ceremony must be performed by any of the individuals specified in Section 11 of the New York State Domestic Relations Law. These include:
  • the current or a former governor;
  • the mayor of a city or village;
  • the former mayor, the city clerk or one of the deputy city clerks of a city of more than one million inhabitants;
  • a marriage officer appointed by the town or village board or the city common council;
  • a member of the New York state legislature;
  • a justice or judge of the following courts: the U.S. Court of Appeals for the Second Circuit, the U.S. District Courts for the Northern, Southern, Eastern or Western Districts of New York, the New York State Court of Appeals, the Appellate Division of the New York State Supreme Court, the New York State Supreme Court, the Court of Claims, the Family Court, a Surrogates Court, the Civil and Criminal Courts of New York City (including Housing judges of the Civil Court) and other courts of record;
  • a village, town or county justice;
  • a member of the clergy or minister who has been officially ordained and granted authority to perform marriage ceremonies from a governing church body in accordance with the rules and regulations of the church body;
  • a member of the clergy or minister who is not authorized by a governing church body but who has been chosen by a spiritual group to preside over their spiritual affairs;
  • other officiants as specified by Section 11 of the Domestic Relations Law.
The person performing the ceremony must be registered with the City of New York in order to perform a ceremony within the New York City limits. The officiant does not have to be a resident of New York State. Ship captains are not authorized to perform marriage ceremonies in New York State.

Where do you get copies of records?

For copies of marriage licenses issued anywhere in New York State except the five (5) boroughs of New York City, a certified copy of the marriage record may be obtained from the office of the town or city clerk who issued the license, or from the New York State Department of Health. The fee is $10 if you obtain a certified copy from the town or city clerk who issued the license. If applying to the New York State Department of Health, the fee is $30. For a certified copy, write to:
  • New York State Department of Health
    Bureau of Vital Records Certification Unit
    P.O. Box 2602
    Albany, New York 12220-2602





Funerals/Celebration of Life

Funeral/Celebration of Life
Rev. Lisa Jock
 
My journey into officiating funerals and celebrations of life began with my aunt, who inspired me through her passing. After she passed, she came to me in a deeply meaningful way—she gave me specific music to incorporate into her ceremony. The experience was both moving and transformative, guiding me to create a ceremony that truly reflected her spirit. This moment deepened my understanding of how deeply personal and healing these ceremonies can be, and since then, I have been honored to help other families honor their loved ones with customized, heartfelt services. 

Honoring a loved one’s life is a deeply personal experience. In our time together, I will listen to your stories, memories, and wishes to craft a meaningful and customized ceremony that truly reflects their spirit. Guided by intuition, I will thoughtfully weave in any insights, creating a heartfelt tribute that brings comfort and healing. I am also available to attend the wake, offering support and gathering additional stories to ensure the ceremony truly reflects your loved one’s life and legacy.

I look forward to meeting with the family to gather any specifics and personal anecdotes that you'd like to share. I will also attend the wake to connect with family members and listen to meaningful stories that paint a picture of your loved one's life and legacy. Rest assured, with the information and memories you've shared, I will craft a personalized service that truly reflects the unique spirit and essence of your loved one. Thank you for entrusting me with this important role during such a significant time.